The 9 Pillars of Homemaking
Homemaking is a timeless and beautiful calling
In the aftermath of second-wave feminism, many Western women turned away from homemaking in order to pursue new found freedoms and opportunities within society.
Now, nearly half a century later, millennial women such as myself are embracing a return to this traditional way of life for a myriad of reasons.
For those of us who were raised by Baby Boomers and Gen-Xers, we may not have been properly educated in the art of home management. This was certainly the case for me.
As the child of an ambitious, proud feminist and divorcée, I heard very little talk of child rearing, cooking from scratch, and home organization.
And who could blame my mother? Like many women whose marriages had unexpectedly fallen apart, she worked around the clock to excel in her career so she could provide my sister and me with a safe home, 3 square meals a day, decent clothing, and the best education she could afford.
To my father’s credit, he was as present as our situation could allow considering his demanding career as a software engineer several states away.
A Generational Culture Gap
I admire both my parents their efforts to co-parent my sister and me. I am also eternally grateful that they were both careful to extol the value of marriage despite the failure of their own.
It was those seeds that they planted along with the harsh realities of growing up in a broken home that made me long for more.
I was a bright child and, thanks to being designated as a gifted and talented, I had the opportunity to attend excellent schools where I thrived academically.
My well-intentioned parents encouraged me to put my brains to use by going out into the world and climbing the corporate ladder.
They hoped that by encouraging me to choose a high-powered career I would have the means to support myself so that, in the event I also endured a divorce, it wouldn’t have the power to break me financially.
However, I had always dreamt of growing up to be a wife and a mother rather than an independent career woman. I knew deep in my heart that I wanted a home life that was vastly different from what I had known.
When I envisioned my life, I saw myself raising my children at home while my husband gladly worked hard to provide for us.
When I first shared this dream with my daddy, in response to the question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” He was appalled, to say the least. So, after that, I learned to say what my parents wanted to hear.
But I never gave up on that dream of being a homemaker.
“The ministry of homemaking is one of the most important and honorable roles a woman can have in her life..”
In Search of a Traditional Life
Years later, I married my best friend. Like myself, my husband is also a child of divorce who vividly remembers how the separation of his parents rocked his world.
Because of this shared experience along with our convictions regarding what the sanctity of a woman’s role in the home, we have made a commitment to do things differently in our marriage and in our parenting.
Since my husband and I did not come from the traditional home environment which we desired to create for ourselves and our families, we’ve sought out mentoring through the years from wise older couples who’ve graciously taken us under their wings.
My hope is to pass on their wisdom to other millennial women who, like me, did not receive this type of training in their youth.
The goal of the 9 Pillars of Homemaking course is to share the basics of managing a home with current and aspiring homemakers. By the end of this course, you will have a foundation upon which to build up your home into a beautiful haven.
This course is written from a Christian perspective, so it is based upon the timeless truths of the Bible.
The ministry of homemaking is one of the most important and honorable roles a woman can have in her life.
A Biblical Perspective
Let’s explore further what the Bible has to say about a woman’s role in her home.
Proverbs 14:1 (New Living Translation) “A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.”
Proverbs 31:27 (Christian Standard Bible) “She watches over the activities of her household and is never idle.”
Proverbs 24:3-4 (New International Version) “By wisdom a house is built and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.”
1 Timothy 5:13-14 (English Standard Version) “Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not. So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander.”
Titus 2:3-5 (Amplified Bible) “Older women similarly are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor addicted to much wine, teaching what is right and good, so that they may encourage young women to tenderly love their husbands and children, to be sensible, pure, makers of a home [where God is honored], good-natured, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.”
From these verses, we can glean several insights about the role of homemaking.
- A woman who desires to and actively builds her home is wise (not oppressed, as some believe.)
- A homemaker is the operations manager of her home.
- Homemaking requires knowledge and wisdom. Women who practice the traditional arts of homemaking are skilled in a wide variety of crucial activities.
- A woman ought to concern herself with diligently tending to her household rather than idleness and gossip.
- Homemaking is a set of skills that must be taught by experienced, older women to younger women.
- Through homemaking, women can bring honor to the word of God.
There are many other verses that provide us with sound instructions regarding the lives we ought to lead as Christian mothers, but these five serve as the foundation upon which this course has been designed.
What You’ll Learn in 9 Pillars of Homemaking
In the 9 lessons of this course, you will learn about:
- Self-care and discipline
- Walking in unity with your husband
- Establishing and maintaining routines
- Creating and implementing systems
- Financial stewardship
- Meal planning and preparation
- Cleaning and decluttering
- Nurturing your children
- Education and homeschooling
In just under 30 days, this free email course will equip you so that you can transform into a competent keeper of the home.
If you’re ready to dive into the 9 Pillars of Homemaking, you can start your journey here!