1. I feel like myself again – It’s refreshing to be known as Tiffany rather than so-and-so’s wife or so-and-so’s mommy.
2. I’ve Opted Out of the Mommy Wars – I don’t feel the pressure to choose a side in the Mommy Wars. I’m living my life on my own terms and I’m pleased with it.
3. Discovering strengths and talents I never knew I had – I’ve had to step outside of my comfort zone in order to get my business off the ground. This has required a lot of creativity and grit that I likely never would’ve known I had otherwise.
4. I value myself a lot more – I never would’ve dreamed of asking an employer to pay me what I charge people now. I know my worth.
5. Some days, I want to quit – When I’m sick, when I’m behind on housework, when I’ve had a not-so-good experience with a client, or when I’ve been battling nausea (hello, pregnancy) I have to remind myself exactly why I’m doing all of this. In the end, I realize how much happier I am, and I find the will to keep going.
6. Self Care is more important than ever – With such a full plate, it’s tempting to skip my self care rituals in order to have a little more time to put towards knocking out my to-do list. However, self care is critical to managing my anxiety, so I can’t afford to put myself last.
7. I’ve had to learn how to manage my anxiety all over again – Work At Home Entrepreneurship has both increased my anxiety and helped me to confront it at the same time. I’ve had to manage anxiety about monetizing my blog, about becoming more visible online, about being on the phone, and about ensuring my children don’t feel abandoned because of my work responsibilities.
8. I had to mourn the loss of my free time – I always thought I was so busy until I began working at home more. As a freelance writer, I worked when I felt like it, so I never felt much pressure outside of deadlines. Now with a service-based business and regular clients, I’ve had to show up more. Initially, this threw me into a mild panic because rather than feeling the freedom I desired as a WAHM entrepreneur, I felt trapped! Since then, I’ve had a mindset shift, and I enjoy the structure that working at home provides.
9. Working in PJs is a terrible idea – It sounds ideal, but the few times I’ve done it, it makes me feel like my day hasn’t truly started. Since I homeschool, I like for us to all get ready for the day first thing because it helps my kids make the mental switch to focus on school. Getting myself ready for the day, makeup and jewelry included, helps me to get my own mind in the zone to work.
10. Perfectionism is a waste of time – Being overly critical of myself and my work is second nature. I’m slowly learning it’s better to start, even if it’s imperfect, than to wait and waste time pursuing perfectiom.
11. I experienced a Freshman 15+ – Working more has meant more time at my desk early in the morning and sometimes late at night. There was a time when I was drinking lots of coffee and eating more snacks while I worked, which meant the scale started to creep up. In order to turn things around, I purchased a Fitbit and I’ve been working on improving my health and figure. Since I’m pregnant again, I don’t expect to lose weight yet, but I know focusing on fitness now will make it easier for me to drop the weight after the baby comes.
12. Ongoing learning is a part of the deal – The key to successfully running a home business is to commit to learning all the time, at least one hour each day. Technology and best practices change constantly, so it’s necessary to keep studying in order to be an asset to clients.